Friday, December 21, 2007

Need dd help

I saw the Dr today and things are OK, but I still must rest, rest, rest. He said at least 3 or 4 times that he wants me to make it to my scheduled c-section in January. I'm beginning to think I may not make it no matter how good I am, I am having way too many contractions, way too often, and some are way too painful...and I am being as good as I can be (without going insane).

My dd is getting resentful of my resting (I have had her helping more with easy dinners and doing only slightly more in other areas than she normally would...barely more). But how do I get through this if my kids can't help pick up some slack? My boys and hubby are helping more too, but my dd thinks I'm only picking on her...she was pissed tonight over it. I asked her if she would like to be the mom for a day to see that that job is hard too. She said, "Sure, I would love to rest all day!"(very snottily) I told her if she was mom for a day it would be doing everything I used to be able to do and that she has to "earn" this kind of resting with 8 months of illness and so much more. I just don't know how to get through to her. I need her help so much and I thank her for it all the time...just what else can I do? It is really stressing me out that she has come to think this way. I have tried really hard to not give her too much because she already has so much going on. Any ideas?

My oldest comes home tomorrow for the holidays. I really hope he will be willing to step in and help out a bit too. We have so much going on right now and I just want this "family team" to buck up and help each other get through it. I'm so grateful that I have had some friends who have been able to help out...it has been a true blessing to be able to get so much done so far. I don't know how I could ever thank them enough.

Well, this is all my body can handle so I best sign off and get back to resting....oh how I miss my dish network!

2 comments:

cjknick said...

Hey girl. I'd talk to ya about dd if you'd like. Just give me a call.

Don't stress about what you're having to do and what the rest of the family has to do to help. I'd be happy to talk to ya about that too.

You know my number if you'd like to chat.

Cindy

Courtney said...

Gwennie, do you think you can sit down and talk to her about your concerns? Be honest with her, and let her know that you really need her help right now. I can't remember how old she is, but sitting down and being honest with me was the only way my mom was able to get anything through to me. When my mom retorted with snotty comments back to my snotty comments, it ended up as a huge fight and a big mess. Good luck and take care of yourself. I'm thinking about you!